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.@WearYourVoice A2: Fluid #wyvchat

"very whatever" -- aka what i say any time I'm asked this question

I am into penetration.

Q2 I realized I was bisexual in 8th grade. Beyond that, I realized I was attracted to all genders and came out as queer in my 20s. I'm engaged to a hetero cis male and still trying to figure out how that happened.

I'm demi-sexual and queer.

@YOMayaSongbird You and I both

@ema_grey love this!

For our readers and followers who are curious, "Demisexuality is a sexual orientation in which someone feels sexual attraction only to people with whom they have an emotional bond. Most demisexuals feel sexual attraction rarely compared to

the general population and some have little to no interest in sexual activity." #demisexual

@suma_jane_dark I'm starting to identify more and more with that as I navigate trauma and ebb and flow of my own sexuality.

Does anyone here ID as straight? Do you/have you ever felt the need to "come out"?

I've also become more sex positive and have joined communities here that put on events in safe spaces to explore/play and reduce the sexual stigma/taboo. Embrace and express!

I identify as Queer because that is how I grew up but primarily living a straight boring love life. Would like to push most men off of cliffs.

Thanks, @laureldickman!

@YOMayaSongbird "would like to push most men off cliffs" is the new way I'm gonna describe my sexuality tbh

@YOMayaSongbird LOL yessss, most men need their brain jogged to check themselves. A good push off a cliff will do.

I used to ID as straight and feel kind of like a liar. But then if someone forced me into bi or gay i'd also feel like a liar. Queer is fluid, like my experiences and feelings with women.

I thought that I was gay, not queer, for most of my life. I had to come out to my family and friends when I first had a hetero relationship, actually. Everybody was shocked!

@elly_zen I still get frustrated when ppl assume I'm gay bc I've mostly dated "girls" and used to feel like I was being "homophobic" (which is kinda ironic) but really it was just discomfort at being labelled somethign that didnt describe me

@suma_jane_dark ahaha I've had that same conversation!

My own. "I am woman, I am beautiful, and so is my vagina". We had it on the bathroom wall but my kid was totally against it and told all is friends his mom is weird.

@YOMayaSongbird LOVE IT yr kid's gonna learn soon that his "weird mom" is actually an icon

There's no way I could pick just one! Every day brings new challenges and depending on the day, I need different inspiration.

Thank you. He is part weird also.Soon he will see. There is no way out! lol hahah

can't think of a specific quote, but its a mix of fuck it, love yourself so you can love others fully, acceptance, take care of your shell when ya can, but also don't stress over what others want you to be.

A4 I love the whole "Riots Not Diets" thing. We're so focused on our bodies being perfect that it consumes our lives and pulls us away from everything else. If we're focused on weight loss,

Q4 I could never choose one, but Susan Bordo's book Unbearable Weight is my favorite body-positive piece of writing.

a2 (continued) then how can we focused on the systematic discrimination of bodies that are fat, disabled, or black or otherwise outside of Eurocentric beauty standards? "Focus on this so that you cannot fight against that."

“Confidence is being able to say ‘Fuck you, I’m the shit’ without opening your mouth, say it with your walk, with your smile, say it with your entire being.” - Tati-Ana Mercedes

Hi I am Maya Everyone. Your Groovy Spacechild who is feeling totally Outrageous on this terrific tuesday.

*waves* I'm Chelle. I live in the East Bay. Musician and cake designer.

Laurel, writer for WYV

Hey, I'm Suma. Photographer, also writer for WYV.

@YOMayaSongbird @serynade @laureldickman @suma_jane_dark Thanks for being here, all!!

Hi I'm Paige 24 from the uk. I've never used this so I'm not sure what to expect

I'm Monica and feeling spicy

Paigey-- So glad you can be here! This is our first time using CrowdChat too, so we can learn together :)

Hi, I'm Elly - designer for WYV

@YOMayaSongbird Yass you are Grooovy!

Hey Monica! I miss you so much! I am going to follow you! Follow me!

I Can't find you on Twitter, Monica! Add me!

Well I have been a space cadet my whole life and I have always been a big soul. I would just say steer clear from soulless pups and always be your motherfucking self. A lot of things we could have avoided but we grew I guess. Blah Blah Life.

Q1 On the bus when I was 5 or 6! Marina, the resident meangirl and my crush, started telling us what it was. I came home and my mom was like "well, I guess we have to have that talk."

A3 @WearYourVoice w difficulty... it's hard to learn what a "healthy sexual existence" is when you deal w sexual abuse from a young age

My mom bought me a birds and the bees book that I still have and then I started making moves on boys. But I really figured it out after watching the sex scene in the movie "Posse". I was like so that is how it happens. cool. lol

@ema_grey @WearYourVoice I know that feeling. 7 yr old molested by my childhood bff's 13 yr old brother. I learn to assoc shame with sex really early on.

A3: My dad was not around in my life, and my mom barely spoke about it to me. I think I saw a porno and asked someone about it? LOL I don't really remember a pivotal moment.

I was a very early bloomer and I was lucky that my mom was up front and direct with me about everything when we had "the talk." I could ask her about anything I heard at school etc.

STOLEN LESBIAN PORN played a large role in it, too. Another childhood friend used to sneak her dad's stash of "gross dyke porn" but we were both secretly all about it.

Q3 @ema_grey @laureldickman Also dealt with being traumatized early on. I filled out very early and was always assumed to be much older than I was. People just kind of forced learning about sex on me.

But as the fat shy girl in the corner, I was very sheltered with my own experiences until I was in college.

.@suma_jane_dark "People just forced learning about sex on me" I feel like this is a really common experience... Do ya'll think better Sex Ed could help curb this?

My first bff's dad did have secret porn tv channels that she and I would watch together when we were alone and then try to "practice" on each other after.

Definitely! I grew up in the South, so Sex Ed began in high school and was all abstinence-based and very shame-focused.